How to Let Go of Pain

Today I’m here to share something I recently experienced.

I rarely watch TV these days…and when I do it’s something I’ve stored on the DVR.

The other night though, I needed a little ‘wind down’. And as I was navigating the screen to get to the DVR, I got sidetracked by a listing.

There it was – “Henry & June” about to start on HBO in 10 minutes! I hadn’t seen the film in probably 20 years – it’s original release was in 1990.

I felt compelled to watch it for so many reasons and believing that things happen for a reason, I knew it was no coincidence I ‘stumbled’ upon the movie.

I remembered how sexy the movie was the first time I saw it all those years ago.

I remembered how powerful the journey was for the main character, Anais Nin.

I remembered how deeply I wanted to connect with my sensual desires as a young woman and felt trapped without resources or support to show me what’s possible.

I hunkered in and soaked up the movie for the next few hours.

OK – in our modern day world of movie-making, it’s not the greatest film. BUT, it remained powerful, sensual and an expression of a woman’s deep truth.

The other night, watching the movie stirred me again. Especially because of the last words you hear in the movie. They are a voice over by Anais Nin’s character where she says:

“I wept because the process by which I’d become a woman was painful.
I wept because from now on – I would weep less.
I wept because I’d lost my pain and I was not yet accustomed to it’s absence.”

This is the same woman who wrote one of the most famous quotes saying:

“And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom.”

The transition into our TRUTH – our birthright, our feminine power – is not always easy or comfortable. And when we find a slice of it, we have to let go of the thing that’s been taking up space. Usually that’s some kind of pain, what I refer to as a kink.

Even though we know the pain is pain, it’s familiar. It’s what we’ve come accustomed to day to day. Having the courage and commitment to venture into the ‘unknown’ is required to create the playing field for YOUR MOJO to emerge – and therefore be the victorious, glorious winner.

Today’s video is a sweet reminder to:

allow yourself to feel comfortable with the discomfort

know you can transform your pain into passion and power

realize there are women out there just like you

give yourself permission to shine your brilliant mojolicious self for the good of all

unabashedly relish in all your senses (eat, drink and be merry fo’ reals!)

If you’re having trouble feelin’ good and finding your way to the delicious beauty that you are, go on over to deborah-kagan.com and access your complimentary gift from me. That’s the hub to get great free tips on your mojo tools and, more importantly, how to put them into action.

Because when you connect to your mojo and the tools to cultivate it, you are, as I like to say, totally mojolicious.

What pain are you setting free today?

Leave a comment below and make sure to share this video with all the women you love.

I’m on a mission to see every woman rock her mojo.

Until next time, get out there and knock ‘em alive, ladies!