The Art of Time Chunking

“I am only one; but still I am one. I cannot do everything, but still I can do something; I will not refuse to do the something I can do.”

~ Helen Keller

There are certain things we need in order to achieve the “life of our dreams.” Many of them you can learn from the posts on this blog. However, what we as women, who are innately more feminine in nature, need is some masculine structure in order to fully let our flow, mojo and radiance shine.

It can feel painful, uncomfortable, irritating even to create these structures. OR for those of you, who are like me, and have built a strong connection to your own masculine over the years, creating the structures might feel fantastic (and therefore the flow part is where you need more support). Either way, we’re talking about setting up time chunks on your schedule specifically for creating your ideal life because:

1.   It’s necessary to truly thrive

2.   It allows you to relax more often

3.   It shows you how far you’ve come and keeps you on track when you start to veer off course

4.   It brings more pleasure into daily life taking our the extraneous mystery, which is what causes stress

5.   It’s FUN!

I recently had a client who was getting back into the dating game. She felt super intimidated and concerned that she wouldn’t be able to figure it all out between taking care of her young son, maintaining her career and helping out her Mom. When I gave her the exercise to time chunk her dating, she literally beamed with glee and said, “You mean I can use time chunking for my dating?” Oh yes! She was familiar with the concept from previous work we’d done together but she didn’t put two and two together using the technique for her personal life. When she did, she was way less stressed about speaking to potential mates and making a plan to connect in person.

Mojo Exercise:

Sit down with your favorite beverage, put on some music you enjoy and get out your calendar and any office supplies you might need to make this really fun for you.

First write down on your calendar (if it’s not on there already) the absolute non-negotiables. Like the time you’re at work, taking kids to school and picking them up or standing meetings for professional or personal needs.

Now look at the free spaces. They’re probably on the weekends, some evenings and even a few midday ones.

Next, and this one is really important, feel into your body and ask which of those times will be the most inspiring and pleasurable to spend with potential mates (or your current one)? Once you get an answer (and don’t second guess yourself), then put it on your calendar on a repeating basis and commit to it. Period.

Now you know the times each week that you’re available to date (or choose any other area of your life that needs some love). If you don’t have a date that week at your allotted time, then use that time to cultivate your dating life. This can be time spent online looking at profiles or responding to inbound notes, time to take yourself on a date (you’d be surprised what can happen when you’re on a solo date!), time to treat yourself to a new outfit, time to take a bubble bath…whatever fills your heart and inspires you to be more you!

So mojolicious one, what will you commit to time chunking and when?

Big love,